Communication Problems In Your Relationships?

Have you ever had communication problems in your relationship? I am sure that you have. We all from time to time do have this issue. As we all might agree... communication is a major role in a relationship. If one is having a difficult time in communicating, it can really stress their partner out. I guess you can say that I have been stressed out here lately. I am sure that is not entirely a surprise to those who know a bit about me. For those of you who don't know me... here is a small recap for why I might be stressed. I am a housewife with seven, yes seven kids to look after. I just had my last child 2 months ago. So I am sure I have a touch of some PPD (Postpartum Depression). When you add the seven kids and a husband that lacks communication at times, I can really get stressed out! I can be, how should I put this, a bit moody/bitchy at times. Pardon the french there, but it is the truth, LOL!

I look at things perhaps a bit differently than others. I try to make sure all kids are treated equally. I make a point of doing this. If something should arise in the household with the children, I immediately share with my husband what has transpired (in detail). For example: One time the kids came home from school in a bad mood. The decided to take it out on each other. One thing leads to another and the boys are now wrestling around and someone gets hurt. Oh wait, this happens weekly, LOL! Anyways, whatever punishments or talks that I have with the kids I discuss what they said and what I said to keep him informed. I pretty much give a blow by blow on all accounts of what has happened.

Now here is where the communication part breaks down. I get so darn irritated. My husband will have a conversation with one of the kids. He takes them to their room or our room and has a long discussion. Once he comes out he says absolutely nothing to me or all he says is that he had a long talk with that child. I have to really pry some information from him as to what was said in the conversation. Still, what do I get? I get well basically it was about this XYZ. That's it. He either has forgotten what all was said or he has to think about it to get is thoughts straight. By the time he is done thinking about it... nothing is ever said about it cause it has been to long since it happened. I try not to get mad by this. Most times I just can't help myself. Maybe I am over reacting but this is how I see it. If I can give details as to any conversations with the kids than I expect the same in return.

Maybe on some level, I see it has him hiding things from me. I wouldn't normally think this but he only has these conversations with his children from a previous marriage. If he talks to my kids that we didn't have together, he tells me everything or he tells me what they did to make him mad and have me talk to them. I just don't see this as equal treatment either. As I said before, I try to focus on keeping all the children as equals. What is done for one is done for all! So, am I being crazy and over reacting to this or am I on the mark here? Any suggestions?

Easter 2009

Happy Easter everyone! I hope your Easter was as delightful as mine was. To start off with, the kids woke us up early (as usual) so they could open the goodies. Most of the children are old enough that they don't believe in the Easter Bunny. For those children, we don't like to let them feel left out so we home make a special basket for each of those.

Examples of what the older kids got this year. It may not be the same quantity of things, but it does have the same money value. The kids understand that we spend the same amount on each. The Easter basket for the little ones were $20.00. So that is what we spent on all the kids.

This picture is of the girls baskets. The oldest girl (15) is Lexi and we decided to get her a purse as her basket with an Easter bunny stuffed animal. Of course they each got 20 eggs filled with candy as well as other loose candy. Krista (2) and Chelsea (11) got pre-made Easter basket.



This picture are the boys baskets. We got them each a basket and filled it with the 20 eggs with candy as well as the extra candy. The oldest boy (almost 13), Devin got the football that he wanted. The other 2 boys who play baseball shared there gift. Connor (11) and Zack (10) got a pitch/throw back net. I didn't get the newborn, Bhradain (2 months) a basket cause he can't eat the candy.



Here are the 3 boys after seeing what they got.



And here are the girls looking at what they got.